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Karen Macmillan, career change, life change

My plan when I started this adventure was to set an intention (find my work) and see what happened in the space I created. To avoid too scary a void and in a spirit of exploration I embarked on a number of different strands that interested me. What actually happened is that I filled my time, albeit with much more rewarding activity, almost as much as when I was in a job I hated. And that sense of being open to possibility and exploring slowly started to fade away and the 'what is my work?' question kept creeping back. The idea that we each have a vocation if only we can discover it is incredibly appealing. Chasing it doesn't work. I've tried (too hard, no doubt) a lot of different approaches to find the answer. None of them have worked in any meaningful way. So it's back to my original plan. Stop trying so hard. Relax - the hardest of all, and the most necessary to open and receive.

I've recently discovered the work of David Whyte. He talks about developing a relationship, a conversation, with the unknown. I find this really helpful. To understand that all will not reveal itself fully formed but that we need to allow for the unknown and proceed anyway, trying to take that first small step, close in, to continue the conversation.

START CLOSE IN (by David Whyte)

Start close in, don't take the second step or the third, start with the first thing close in, the step you don't want to take.

Start with the ground you know, the pale ground beneath your feet, your own way of starting the conversation.

Start with your own question, give up on other people's questions, don't let them smother something simple.

To find another's voice, follow your own voice, wait until that voice becomes a private ear listening to another.

Start right now take a small step you can call your own don't follow someone else's heroics, be humble and focused, start close in, don't mistake that other for your own.

Start close in, don't take the second step or the third, start with the first thing close in, the step you don't want to take.

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Comments(6)

kateh1 says...
8:43am Sun 17 Apr 11

Hi Karen I loved your blog! David Whyte sounds amazing - will follow up. You might like to google Ann Lewis a friend of mine who has written a lot about managing work-life ratios, getting through the tough times etc. Your career change is brave and very positive and I wish you luck and happiness in all you do in future. All best, Kate

anubis. says...
10:50am Sun 17 Apr 11

Karen. In the main, my earlier comments to you have been frivolous -- but maybe I ought, just once, express a serious opinion (my doctorate, many years ago was in psychology -- and over the years I've served my time as teacher, counsellor and experimentation.

You are starting at the wrong end; the job you'll "be happy in" can only arrive when you have made yourself into a real person, a biological organism -- if it's texts you want to explore, you need look at Wilhelm Reich for starters -- or if that's too 'way out', then Carl Rogers (none is a hero of mine, and I've written pieces critical of them in the past).

It would be absurd of me to suggest 'being happy' can be defined -- but if one looks at public personalities who WERE fulfilled and 'happy' (and said so!) you could range from Albert Einstein to Bertrand Russell -- but neither of them would have delineated their 'happiness' in terms of jobs they did. Indeed, once you strive to become a real person, the job you do is really rather unimportant. (probably one of the 'happiest' jobs I ever did was when I first came to England as a teenager and worked as a bus conductor on London transport!)

Nice of Kate to 'wish you luck' -- but I assure you, 'luck' will NEVER enter the equation!

Karen McMillan says...
8:53pm Sun 17 Apr 11

Kate - thanks! I will check her out
Anubis - yes indeed it's about more than the job....

kateh1 says...
8:59am Mon 18 Apr 11

I disagee with Anubis about the luck - and from an experiential rather than theoretical perspective! I think we can all make our own luck to a certain degree, by identifying the factors which contribute to our wellbeing and building on these. If you choose to surround yourself with negative people, their negativity can be contagious. I believe Karen's journey through exploring career choices is brave and positive, she is actively exploring options which make her happier or more fulfilled, and this will help her achieve her goals. Arnold Palmer (golfer) said 'The more I practise, the luckier I get.' Even if you are tied to a job that makes you unhappy, it's worth looking at elements you can control such as delegating, secondments, project management, training etc. And you might just get lucky!

anubis. says...
3:27pm Mon 18 Apr 11

You are obviously a disciple of our childhood friend, Humpty Dumpty, Kate -- you will remember his wonderful conversation with Alice (when he met her briefly, the other side of the looking glass!):

“When I use a word,” Humpty Dumpty said, in a rather a scornful tone, “it means just what I choose it to mean—neither more nor less.”

Of course it helps conversation if we manage to use the same dictionaries -- the ones I have define 'luck' as something quite beyond our own control (unless you are also in the field of 'lucky charms'?)

I guess that's one of the advantages of living in a free country -- there's plenty of room for Humpty and his followers. Anyway, I'm not REALLY disagreeing with you -- just your language usage!

kateh1 says...
7:29am Tue 19 Apr 11

Or you could wear your lucky pants - my man is convinced they influence the football results!

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