Re-entering the adult world (From The Argus)
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Re-entering the adult world
1:47pm Thursday 25th March 2010
By Michelle McCann - Mummy McCann »
This morning I went for a work interview. I felt empowered going back to my work place because now I am a different person but also because I am comfortable in myself too. I wasn't nervous about it because I understand that what will be will be and all I can do is be honest and open about who I am and what I can do . . . the rest is up to fate.
I have to admit that for 45 minutes of questions and answers it was lovely to feel that I could interact without talking about Isobel and without her being with me. I tried to discuss my knowledge and ideas.
Whether I get this new job or not, it was nice to be Michelle today as well as Isobel's mummy or Gav's wife. I find in general I am defined as a mummy and sometimes I feel this isolates me.
I asked others via Facebook and Babycentre what they thought the definition of a mummy was. My favourite answer was: "Being a mummy means giving all I can to my children but knowing I also have my own hopes, dreams and desires. Many of it includes them but some of it doesn't. I didn't swap my individuality for children, they became part of it." I can't really add anything more to this definition. It sums it up perfectly for me!
Comments(2)
anubis
says...
4:02pm Sat 27 Mar 10
We imagine ourselves as ‘individual, unique personalities’, which indeed we are, but we are constantly changing. In a very fundamental sense, the Michelle who has just applied for a job (and been turned down) is NOT the same individual who previously worked there. (Your post suggests you were re-applying to a previous employer.)
Stating the obvious -- in many essential respects, Michelle today is a VERY different individual. As a ‘mummy’ you have acquired/developed many positive characteristics (empathy etc., etc.), BUT from the prospective employer’s point of view, your newly developed (deeper) mental priorities might NOT be perceived as so relevant to the vacancy.
If my reading of your post is accurate, perhaps a DIFFERENT KIND OF job might prove a better hunting ground for you ?!
Lots of luck!
Michelle McCann says...
1:54pm Fri 26 Mar 10
I didn't get the job and I am kind of relieved!