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5:41pm Monday 6th August 2007

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By Lawrence Marzouk »

An eccentric tea shop owner is causing a stir by barring customers who flout a strict set of rules such as dunking biscuits, clanging their spoons or using mobiles.

David Daly warns customers they will be asked to leave his Brighton shop if they stray from his Victorian-era code of etiquette.

Rules include not putting your elbows on the table, not insulting the Queen, never handling sugar cubes and not sipping from teaspoons.

The "unsavoury habit" of dunking biscuits is "strictly prohibited" and "will resuilt in you being invited to leave the tearooms".

Customers have jokingly described Mr Daly as a Fascist and even set up a website and discussion forum.

One described Tea Cosy Rooms as "the scariest place ever" while another said she had witnessed ejections for "biscuit wetting".

Another customer said: "If you dare talk when the piano lady is performing you are out."

The walls of the Southover Street meeting place in Hanover are decorated with pictures of the Royals.

Visitors are advised that, contrary to popular wisdom, pinkies should most definitely not point into the air.

Banging a teaspoon against a cup and using a mobile phone is banned outright, as is talking "louder than two shakes of a tea cup".

Tourists from across the world have come for their dose of tea-related masochism.

Mr Daly says the menu and setting is based on high tea at the Ritz.

The 30-year-old says he is far from being a Fascist and is actually "very nice" in real life.

He is, however, keen to teach people of the joys of a civilised cup of tea.

He said: "People have to obey the rules and if not they are asked to leave.

"It is the art of tea drinking - this is not going to Starbucks with a mug of coffee.

"Most people don't break the rules anymore but some man did bang his head on the table when I walked in because he was using his phone under the table."

The unusual rulebook has prompted a group, set up on the social networking website Facebook, to discuss the tearoom.

They have complained about the strict set-up asking if Mr Daly is serious or if the whole thing is a joke.

The 17-strong group is called "The tea rooms in Brighton (Southover Street) is run a by a Fascist" and is quickly attracting new members.

The Founder of Facebook group, called "Lisssh Harvell", wrote: "This is the most scariest place ever.

"The first thing you see on the menu is a set of rules about how to behave in the tea room."

She describes some of the rules and adds: "The list is long and intense but worst of all you can't dunk biscuits."

Ms Harvell claims she saw people being chucked out for daring to wet their biscuit.

Eight people have replied with descriptions of their visits to the tea rooms.

Grace Roberts wrote: "I got jam and cream on the handle of the scone tray and he examined my every move after that.

"But seriously, it's no joke, we had to ask for a cream tea because we went in on Lady Diana Spencer high tea Wednesday."

Nargis Alex McCarthy wrote: "You have to go just for the experience. It's just so weird. It was fun and funny though even with the Fascist."

Daisy Jordan said: "This is all true, but it's quite funny and it's really cute in there.

"The guy told me off for my spoon being in the tea cup and then winked at me.

"When I read that etiquette thing I couldn't decide whether or not it was a joke."

Visit www.theteacosy.co.uk for more information.

What do you think of the rules? Have you ever been thrown out of the shop? Leave your comments below or ring the newsdesk on 01273 544519.


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Jammie D, topside says...
6:07pm Mon 6 Aug 07

Good for him. Its his tea shop, and if he can do what he likes. Nice to see someone championing good old fashioned manners. If people don't like it they can Dunk Off !!!

lucy, hove says...
6:10pm Mon 6 Aug 07

i love the tea cosy. Its so eccentric!! I do agree the owners are a little basare to say the least but it all adds to the character of the place. Well worth a visit. The foods great

julia, hanover, brighton says...
6:13pm Mon 6 Aug 07

Theres alot to be said for good manners at the tea table. Well done!

Steve, BRIGHTON says...
6:20pm Mon 6 Aug 07

No biscuit dunking????? Whats the world comming to?

Miriam Binder, Whitehawk says...
6:26pm Mon 6 Aug 07

I think it is a fantastic place. I never ever drink tea but for the Tea Cosy I'd drink gallons.
The owners are those true English gentlemen you find so rarely nowadays and as for the rules ... Sheesh people, they are there, clear and exact. You don't like it, go dunk your biscuit somewhere else!

sally, brighton says...
6:59pm Mon 6 Aug 07

I have had the privalage to visit this space and not be ejected :)Even though brighton has god knows how many cafes and restaurants this one is very unique. Yes the rules are strict, yes the staff are all a bit eccentric, and yes it is all a bit camp but what do people want? Starbucks on every corner? Everytime i have been its always been almost full so they cant be doing to bad. Best of luck guys!!

Bojangles, Nr Brighton says...
8:19pm Mon 6 Aug 07

I took my parents here for afternoon cream tea a couple of months back, and we had a long interesting chat with David, and found him to be a nice chap. The Tea was quite unique! The house rules are firmly tongue in cheek, so how can anyone take offence?!.The Tea Cosy is a Brighton institution!! keep up the good work guys!

Douglas, East Sussex says...
8:25pm Mon 6 Aug 07

What's all this about a truly English traditional tea drinking experience? I've just read the Tea Cosy's website and the writer has no idea where to place an apostrophe and has included a ghastly page about "Baby Showers" that appears to have been written in American! I say get your apostrophes right before barring dunkers!

jo, Haywards Heath says...
8:44pm Mon 6 Aug 07

I had a peep at the website and the spelling is awful. Leave me a note here Mr Daly if you'd like me to point all the errors out to you!
Fantastic looking menu though, it's on my list of places to go now. I love places with old-fashioned values.

cluadia, Hanover says...
9:09pm Mon 6 Aug 07

Im lucky enough to live near the tea rooms. I do feel that this has been blown up a bit. Its really not that strict. I highly recommend a visit to anyone who has not had the chance. However i am aware of one pet hate of the owner. Strictly no leggins, in his words that just no need for them, lol

bill, BN0 says...
9:58pm Mon 6 Aug 07

Visit www.theteacosy.co.uk for more information.

SILLY SEASON like the article about King Alfred actors....promo stuff... what is the price of a cup of tea?

Lucy, close to this tea shop says...
10:17pm Mon 6 Aug 07

My boyfriend wants them to know that they hang their union jack flag upside down!

Tracey, Brighton says...
10:48pm Mon 6 Aug 07

My God! are children welcome? if so should they be seen and not heard? HOW SAD!

Duncan, Hanover says...
11:03pm Mon 6 Aug 07

that's me barred then

mary, surrey says...
11:13pm Mon 6 Aug 07

this place is a hoot, rules are very tongue in cheek. David is a star and the afternoon tea is very good value. had to book as it gets very busy at weekends. will be back very soon

andy, brighton says...
11:47pm Mon 6 Aug 07

i did'nt even know about this place but im going to give it a visit now

dolphy, hanover says...
1:32am Tue 7 Aug 07

Lucy wrote:
My boyfriend wants them to know that they hang their union jack flag upside down!
It's either a Union Flag or a Union Jack, it can't be both. Anyway, I'm definitely going to have a look at this place. Anything that nutty has to be worth a gander. Those of you who don't like the sound of it - keep listening to James Blunt in your VWs on your way to a night out at Ha Ha in your new Ted Baker ensembles and leave the interesting places to those of us with brains.

Sue, Hove says...
6:30am Tue 7 Aug 07

Hoorah for a place which bans inane conversations on a mobile phone.
Hoorah for a place which has manners.
Well done.

Tess Jacks, Lewis says...
9:14am Tue 7 Aug 07

We love The Tea Cosy, I have been there a number of times,
great food, David is The Tea Cosy, 5 star entertainer, and gives
the best hospitality. More restaurants in Brighton need to be
like David and The Tea Cosy, If you do not like the rules
then do not go. Great Place all round and far from fascist

Kelly, Hanover says...
9:47am Tue 7 Aug 07

I visited the tea cosy with my mum and nan on mother's day. My nan loved the place, and ended up in a detailed conversation with David about her Ludrow ducks (she was keen to point out his were fake!). Such an unusual place, I recommend everyone to give it a try (but at a respectable level, if you please)

Ed, hove, brighton says...
10:24am Tue 7 Aug 07

This is one of the top 10 venues in brighton. Pay a visit and make your own mind up.

Roger Tilbury, worthing says...
10:27am Tue 7 Aug 07

He is inviting the public in to purchase tea. As long as they do not annoy other customers or use insulting or threatening behaviour towards staff, and are sober I don't think he has the right to ask them to leave. Do we have any lawyers who can give an opinion?

j, brighton says...
11:03am Tue 7 Aug 07

Roger, if he asked you to leave I would personally help him to eject you from his premises were it legal or not, you pompous ****.

Is everyone is Worthing as miserable as you??

Go back to reading the "news", there may be another road closure on there for you to harp on about.

local, brighton says...
11:20am Tue 7 Aug 07

I had a peep at the website and the spelling is awful. Leave me a note here Mr Daly if you'd like me to point all the errors out to you!


I was involved in working on a local calendar published last year. They kindly took copies to sell but were adamant calendar was spelled with an 'e' instead of 'a' at the end.

Not sure where all these customers have crawled out from - always empty whenever I've walked past...

what roger?, brighton says...
11:22am Tue 7 Aug 07

What are you talking about roger? i own a restaurant and its down to the owner who he lets in, doesnt let in or asks to leave. its private property and he can do as he see's fit. I can see why he has to send people out when there people like roger around.

saly, brighton says...
11:26am Tue 7 Aug 07

why is it when ever someone makes a mark or is successful people always knock them down? if you dont like it dont go there! thats that. no ones forcing you to go. My husband and i love the place

Julian, hove says...
11:44am Tue 7 Aug 07

a really nice place but only open friday,saturday and sunday so very hard to get a table some weekends. nice scones!

Rob, Hove says...
11:55am Tue 7 Aug 07

Tracey wrote:
My God! are children welcome? if so should they be seen and not heard? HOW SAD!
Tracey just keep taking your kids up the Western road with all the other trash and let the rest of us have some peace for once. I can just imagine you allowing given contraception errors "express themselves" at the expense of everyone elses day.

Alex, says...
12:03pm Tue 7 Aug 07

dolphy wrote:
Lucy wrote: My boyfriend wants them to know that they hang their union jack flag upside down!
It's either a Union Flag or a Union Jack, it can't be both. Anyway, I'm definitely going to have a look at this place. Anything that nutty has to be worth a gander. Those of you who don't like the sound of it - keep listening to James Blunt in your VWs on your way to a night out at Ha Ha in your new Ted Baker ensembles and leave the interesting places to those of us with brains.
It`s only a Union Jack if it`s on a ship. If it`s on land it`s a Union Flag

Tracey, Brighton says...
12:07pm Tue 7 Aug 07

Rob i can only assume your mother would be proud of you, or were you never loved and cared for as a child, you were a child once but seem to be very bitter as an adult, i feel sorry for you, did your parents tell you that you were indeed a 'contraception error'

mark, brighton says...
12:34pm Tue 7 Aug 07

complete drivel!! argus please give us some real stories, this paper is becoming the church news,

Louise, sunny brighton says...
12:43pm Tue 7 Aug 07

local, brighton 11.20am, not sure where all the customers are as always empty when you go by...easy...they've all been 'thrown out' or should i say 'asked to leave'!

sally, Hanover says...
12:46pm Tue 7 Aug 07

The reason its always empty when you go by is that it only opens 3 days a week. I think they have full time jobs.

Louise, sunny brighton says...
12:52pm Tue 7 Aug 07

Oh and of course the person saying this only goes past when 'they' are doing other jobs! Yeah Right, i can't believe they have time for other jobs, considering how busy this little place is.

Dunker, Hard says...
1:31pm Tue 7 Aug 07

Surely, this discimination against dunkers must be against the law? One is born a dunker, it is not something one chooses to be!

rob, says...
2:57pm Tue 7 Aug 07

Tracey wrote:
Rob i can only assume your mother would be proud of you, or were you never loved and cared for as a child, you were a child once but seem to be very bitter as an adult, i feel sorry for you, did your parents tell you that you were indeed a 'contraception error'
Tracey, I am 12 years old, I am a child.

Peter, Hove says...
4:06pm Tue 7 Aug 07

It must be slow news season to waste space on this. People can always vote with their feet by either going or not going. There must be more important news items .....

Tracey, Brighton says...
5:09pm Tue 7 Aug 07

Rob you silly boy how did i know you were going to respond with that kind of answer, if you are only 12 years old and you feel like you need some peace already im afraid the future is rather grim for you my love.

susan, brighton says...
5:23pm Tue 7 Aug 07

i find it rather strange a full grown man acting to be a 12 year old girl. Very, very disturbing. I have a good mind to call the police as its perverse. Rob you are very very ill and need help

Tracey, Brighton says...
5:29pm Tue 7 Aug 07

Well said Susan, clearly there is something wrong with this poor chap.

bev, brighton says...
6:52pm Tue 7 Aug 07

there going to be so busy this weekend. its in the daily mail, the telegraph, the evening standard and i just watched it on south east tonight!! Good luck to them :)

Erik, Florida, USA says...
7:57pm Tue 7 Aug 07

It sounds to me as though Seinfeld's "Soup Nazi" has been joined by a "Tea Nazi."

"No tea for you!"

bboo, pub says...
9:15pm Wed 8 Aug 07

Who wastes time in the tea room if the pub is open! But I am partial to a Chelsea Bun!

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