Southwick girl attempts suicide after year of bullying at Shoreham Academy

Kenny May

Kenny May

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A father has told how his 12-year-old daughter tried to take her own life after being bullied for more than a year.

Charlotte was set to be discharged from Worthing Hospital last night after making an attempt to end her own life on Monday evening, her father Kenny May said.

Police are now investigating the incident. Charlotte's school - Shoreham Academy - is also aware of what happened.

Mr May told how a family friend discovered Charlotte “lethargic” in the bath.

She said she had “done something silly” and she was rushed to hospital, where it emerged she had taken pills.

Medics kept her in and Mr May, who is no longer with Charlotte's mother, said she was physically recovering well.

His daughter told him she attempted suicide because she was being bullied at school and via the internet.

Mr May said messages were sent to Charlotte via SnapChat - an instant messaging service - which said she should “die” and said her boyfriend did not like her.

Mr May said he had previously held meetings with the school to discuss concerns about the alleged bullying, but he thought the school had not taken his concerns sufficiently seriously.

Speaking at his home in Butts Court, Southwick, yesterday, Mr May said: “Now - since what happened - they are begging for meetings.

“The school says it has a zero-tolerance approach to bullying but I don't believe this to be the case.

“I asked her, 'Why did you do it?'. She said it was because of the bullying. She said, 'I am scared of the bully'.

“I feel so strongly about this - not just for Charlotte but for other generations.”

He described his daughter as a lovely girl and “a fantastic dancer”. “Everything she does, she does with 100%.”

The school website states bullying will not be tolerated and it includes advice for students.

A spokesman for the academy said: “We are currently looking into the details of this distressing incident, which took place last night and are in contact with the family.

“We take the wellbeing of all of our students extremely seriously and have robust systems in place to deal with any welfare issues”.

A Sussex Police statement said: “This was reported to police on Tuesday and an officer is attending the home of the girl's dad to speak to him.

“The school's officer has also been made aware of the incident.”

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7:03am Thu 6 Mar 14

qm says...

Name and shame the gutless reprobates!
Name and shame the gutless reprobates! qm
  • Score: 39

7:28am Thu 6 Mar 14

ironlady says...

My child attends the same Academy and totally agree with this parents comments about the school dismissing any idea of there being serious bullying within their site.
My child was seriously assaulted in the school and there were members of staff that knew it was going on. Yet still they did not act. Until my child was so seriously assaulted (again, within the school and during school hours) it resulted in our having to contact the Police. Once the school were aware that the Police were involved, like this parent, they bent over backwards to arrange meetings and claimed they were only interested in my child's well being. My point is that if the school had been interested in my child's well being, our situation could possibly have been prevented.

I am not naive, bullying does unfortunately happen at all schools but I do believe that measures could be put in place at times so as to avoid the severity of some of these situations. It is very distressing for a parent when you know your child is being bullied and yet you still have to send them daily into a terrible situation and you completely put your trust in the very people whom are supposed to be responsible for your child's well being whilst they are in the care of their school.

I wish this child well as I think it's terribly sad that this young girl felt there were no other option than to try and take her own life. I hope she now recovers and receives the support she clearly needs.
My child attends the same Academy and totally agree with this parents comments about the school dismissing any idea of there being serious bullying within their site. My child was seriously assaulted in the school and there were members of staff that knew it was going on. Yet still they did not act. Until my child was so seriously assaulted (again, within the school and during school hours) it resulted in our having to contact the Police. Once the school were aware that the Police were involved, like this parent, they bent over backwards to arrange meetings and claimed they were only interested in my child's well being. My point is that if the school had been interested in my child's well being, our situation could possibly have been prevented. I am not naive, bullying does unfortunately happen at all schools but I do believe that measures could be put in place at times so as to avoid the severity of some of these situations. It is very distressing for a parent when you know your child is being bullied and yet you still have to send them daily into a terrible situation and you completely put your trust in the very people whom are supposed to be responsible for your child's well being whilst they are in the care of their school. I wish this child well as I think it's terribly sad that this young girl felt there were no other option than to try and take her own life. I hope she now recovers and receives the support she clearly needs. ironlady
  • Score: 73

8:35am Thu 6 Mar 14

Cave Johnson says...

i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.
i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse. Cave Johnson
  • Score: -42

8:58am Thu 6 Mar 14

gazzamagoo says...

I don't understand why the fact that Mr. May is no longer with Charlotte's mother is pertinent to the story. Anyway, I hope she recieves all the help she needs and makes a full recovery.
I don't understand why the fact that Mr. May is no longer with Charlotte's mother is pertinent to the story. Anyway, I hope she recieves all the help she needs and makes a full recovery. gazzamagoo
  • Score: 43

9:10am Thu 6 Mar 14

tooned_in says...

I left school in 1993 a close pal was bullied throughout all his schooling years & 21 yrs on still shows signs of it, this is very serious and heartbreaking a child would feel suicide is their only option!
Lets hope the school expel this bully and this poor child makes a swift recover.
I left school in 1993 a close pal was bullied throughout all his schooling years & 21 yrs on still shows signs of it, this is very serious and heartbreaking a child would feel suicide is their only option! Lets hope the school expel this bully and this poor child makes a swift recover. tooned_in
  • Score: 40

9:15am Thu 6 Mar 14

scuba1 says...

Thank god somebody found this poor kid before it was too late . When schools say there is zero tolerance to bulling they should mean it and remove them from the school . Snapchat and other social networking sites should also be closely monitored for this behaviour .
Thank god somebody found this poor kid before it was too late . When schools say there is zero tolerance to bulling they should mean it and remove them from the school . Snapchat and other social networking sites should also be closely monitored for this behaviour . scuba1
  • Score: 37

9:33am Thu 6 Mar 14

Tippy Toes says...

Cave Johnson wrote:
i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.
I dont agree. I think people need to be aware of the problem.
[quote][p][bold]Cave Johnson[/bold] wrote: i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.[/p][/quote]I dont agree. I think people need to be aware of the problem. Tippy Toes
  • Score: 35

9:37am Thu 6 Mar 14

Larry the Lamb says...

It's been going on for years and from my own experience the softer teachers often ignored it and try to pretend they had not noticed. This is in my opinion the seed bed in which the bully can flourish. Absolute zero tolerance is needed and strong minded teachers and head teachers that can nip things in the bud. Leave it and you end up with sad situations like this. It's no good the school claiming they have zero tolerance as its obviously not worked for this child.
It's been going on for years and from my own experience the softer teachers often ignored it and try to pretend they had not noticed. This is in my opinion the seed bed in which the bully can flourish. Absolute zero tolerance is needed and strong minded teachers and head teachers that can nip things in the bud. Leave it and you end up with sad situations like this. It's no good the school claiming they have zero tolerance as its obviously not worked for this child. Larry the Lamb
  • Score: 26

9:51am Thu 6 Mar 14

motherbrighton says...

Zero tolerance my arse , my daughter is being bullied and refuses to go and are the school interested in solving this NO, it's discusting and the school let it go on and on
Zero tolerance my arse , my daughter is being bullied and refuses to go and are the school interested in solving this NO, it's discusting and the school let it go on and on motherbrighton
  • Score: 25

10:04am Thu 6 Mar 14

Lu1234 says...

My daughter went through this at st bedes. Teachers were informed that she was taking anti depressants for depression due to the bullying. You would think that was enough to investigate? It then led on to an overdose. Her father and I went to the school only for the headmaster to say "it's not our fault your daughter has committed suicide" !! (My daughter had not died) the school refused to take any ownership and we didn't return our daughter to the school. Bullying should be made a criminal offense. The self esteem, trust and confidence issues people suffer after bullying last a life time! I Hope this young girl makes a speedy recovery and the school take ownership of this issue.
My daughter went through this at st bedes. Teachers were informed that she was taking anti depressants for depression due to the bullying. You would think that was enough to investigate? It then led on to an overdose. Her father and I went to the school only for the headmaster to say "it's not our fault your daughter has committed suicide" !! (My daughter had not died) the school refused to take any ownership and we didn't return our daughter to the school. Bullying should be made a criminal offense. The self esteem, trust and confidence issues people suffer after bullying last a life time! I Hope this young girl makes a speedy recovery and the school take ownership of this issue. Lu1234
  • Score: 22

10:06am Thu 6 Mar 14

aliandkids says...

my daughter was bullied for over a year at blatchington mill school by boys and girls in year 11,she had scissors to her throat and loads more. I kept her of school and got told I would get fined . The school done nothing to help and my daughter wanted to end her life .. so know how much this man is going through feeling helpless .. so hope his daughter gets more help from the school with those bullies and be ok bless her
my daughter was bullied for over a year at blatchington mill school by boys and girls in year 11,she had scissors to her throat and loads more. I kept her of school and got told I would get fined . The school done nothing to help and my daughter wanted to end her life .. so know how much this man is going through feeling helpless .. so hope his daughter gets more help from the school with those bullies and be ok bless her aliandkids
  • Score: 25

10:06am Thu 6 Mar 14

Brighton mum says...

My daughter was bullied at Longhill school in Brighton and we've recently moved her she was physically and. Mentally abused and the school suggested it was her fault !
I feel that these schools are letting the pupils rule and have lost control and respect !
I feel for this poor little girl I hope she gets the help and support she needs.
The bully's parents need to be involved with it all as well and made to realise that as parents we should take control of our children ****
My daughter was bullied at Longhill school in Brighton and we've recently moved her she was physically and. Mentally abused and the school suggested it was her fault ! I feel that these schools are letting the pupils rule and have lost control and respect ! I feel for this poor little girl I hope she gets the help and support she needs. The bully's parents need to be involved with it all as well and made to realise that as parents we should take control of our children **** Brighton mum
  • Score: 20

10:29am Thu 6 Mar 14

Mrs Newcastle says...

Once a parent /school relationship has broken down , it best to remove your daughter from this school and have a fresh start, I would remove her straight away and home educate until you can find a place at an another school. I would start by ringing round other schools including schools in Brighton and Hove Area to see if their are space places for her year group. I would also contact the Educational Psychology service at the West Sussex education Authority for a referral for them to see your daughter because if she is being bullied I am sure her schoolwork would be suffering. DO NOT WASTE YOU TIME WITH THIS SCHOOL IT WILL NOT WORK
Once a parent /school relationship has broken down , it best to remove your daughter from this school and have a fresh start, I would remove her straight away and home educate until you can find a place at an another school. I would start by ringing round other schools including schools in Brighton and Hove Area to see if their are space places for her year group. I would also contact the Educational Psychology service at the West Sussex education Authority for a referral for them to see your daughter because if she is being bullied I am sure her schoolwork would be suffering. DO NOT WASTE YOU TIME WITH THIS SCHOOL IT WILL NOT WORK Mrs Newcastle
  • Score: 15

10:49am Thu 6 Mar 14

utternonsense says...

I hope this young girl recovers well from this , and a small note to charlotte .. show them what your made of , im sure you are a bright girl and I hope you go far in life and stick your middle finger up at them in 10 years when your successful and they are not xx
I hope this young girl recovers well from this , and a small note to charlotte .. show them what your made of , im sure you are a bright girl and I hope you go far in life and stick your middle finger up at them in 10 years when your successful and they are not xx utternonsense
  • Score: 27

11:09am Thu 6 Mar 14

krazykath says...

Tippy Toes wrote:
Cave Johnson wrote:
i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.
I dont agree. I think people need to be aware of the problem.
I think it's a brave thing for Charlotte to agree for her name to be put in the paper. Maybe it has now given her inner strength to show that evil child she's not scared anymore. Good luck to you Charlotte I hope you can find strength to get on and enjoy you childhood now.
[quote][p][bold]Tippy Toes[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Cave Johnson[/bold] wrote: i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.[/p][/quote]I dont agree. I think people need to be aware of the problem.[/p][/quote]I think it's a brave thing for Charlotte to agree for her name to be put in the paper. Maybe it has now given her inner strength to show that evil child she's not scared anymore. Good luck to you Charlotte I hope you can find strength to get on and enjoy you childhood now. krazykath
  • Score: 14

11:10am Thu 6 Mar 14

tykemison says...

Spot on gazamagoo, what the hell had her parent's marital status got to do with anything, are you implying this to be a mitigating factor? Disgusting reporting, but, alas, not setting a precedent with this rag, tell me argus, does he like a beer too, cretins.Regarding this most abhorrent of crimes, society needs to have a long hard look at itself, restricting youngsters access to these stupid"social networking"sites would be a welcome start, also, is there an argument for re-installing head-teacher's right to physically punish unruly children instead of letting the bad seeds of scum parents run wild? Molly coddling has not worked....has it?
Spot on gazamagoo, what the hell had her parent's marital status got to do with anything, are you implying this to be a mitigating factor? Disgusting reporting, but, alas, not setting a precedent with this rag, tell me argus, does he like a beer too, cretins.Regarding this most abhorrent of crimes, society needs to have a long hard look at itself, restricting youngsters access to these stupid"social networking"sites would be a welcome start, also, is there an argument for re-installing head-teacher's right to physically punish unruly children instead of letting the bad seeds of scum parents run wild? Molly coddling has not worked....has it? tykemison
  • Score: 10

11:11am Thu 6 Mar 14

wippasnapper says...

there appears to be a lot of Schools that do littoral nothing to stop bullying within there schools, as I told a parent the other day if the school dose not want to deal with the problem get the polices involved and all schools NOT doing the right thing should be named and shamed in the public rag.
there appears to be a lot of Schools that do littoral nothing to stop bullying within there schools, as I told a parent the other day if the school dose not want to deal with the problem get the polices involved and all schools NOT doing the right thing should be named and shamed in the public rag. wippasnapper
  • Score: 7

11:14am Thu 6 Mar 14

davyboy says...

All schools say that they have an anti-bullying policy, but I have yet to see oneback up this by kkicking the bully out of school. It should be taken as a criminal offence, and dealt with by the courts
All schools say that they have an anti-bullying policy, but I have yet to see oneback up this by kkicking the bully out of school. It should be taken as a criminal offence, and dealt with by the courts davyboy
  • Score: 12

11:23am Thu 6 Mar 14

Goldenwight says...

krazykath wrote:
Tippy Toes wrote:
Cave Johnson wrote: i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.
I dont agree. I think people need to be aware of the problem.
I think it's a brave thing for Charlotte to agree for her name to be put in the paper. Maybe it has now given her inner strength to show that evil child she's not scared anymore. Good luck to you Charlotte I hope you can find strength to get on and enjoy you childhood now.
One hopes that she DID in fact agree to her name being published. Given the level of journalistic integrity and fact checking in UK newspapers recently, I would not be certain of it however.
[quote][p][bold]krazykath[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Tippy Toes[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Cave Johnson[/bold] wrote: i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.[/p][/quote]I dont agree. I think people need to be aware of the problem.[/p][/quote]I think it's a brave thing for Charlotte to agree for her name to be put in the paper. Maybe it has now given her inner strength to show that evil child she's not scared anymore. Good luck to you Charlotte I hope you can find strength to get on and enjoy you childhood now.[/p][/quote]One hopes that she DID in fact agree to her name being published. Given the level of journalistic integrity and fact checking in UK newspapers recently, I would not be certain of it however. Goldenwight
  • Score: 6

11:24am Thu 6 Mar 14

Sir Prised says...

Too many teachers are now pretty clueless about what a proper education involves. It's not just about O levels! It's about turning out responsible, socially-aware human beings, whatever their academic level, and that involves teaching self-discipline, something all lthe mentioned schools here are patently failing to do. There was a guy on TV just yesterday, complaining that, now he teaches Year 4, they're not as receptive to his puppet show as when he taught Year 2 ! The guy will never be a teacher because what he really wants to is a kid's entertainer and I suspect that's what motivates many of today's candidates, rather than the much more difficult task of 'educating' in it's fullest sense.
Too many teachers are now pretty clueless about what a proper education involves. It's not just about O levels! It's about turning out responsible, socially-aware human beings, whatever their academic level, and that involves teaching self-discipline, something all lthe mentioned schools here are patently failing to do. There was a guy on TV just yesterday, complaining that, now he teaches Year 4, they're not as receptive to his puppet show as when he taught Year 2 ! The guy will never be a teacher because what he really wants to is a kid's entertainer and I suspect that's what motivates many of today's candidates, rather than the much more difficult task of 'educating' in it's fullest sense. Sir Prised
  • Score: 7

11:44am Thu 6 Mar 14

Stoney33 says...

I deal with bullies myself. I am more than prepared to take a bullet in the form of prosecution so my kids do not suffer any mental torment that will damage their adult lives

Fortunately, to date, thats just giving silly girls a ticking off on the phone, but if it needs more, then so be it

I have friends that were bullied, and my wife, and it has severely ruined their lives with regards to confidence and other areas
I deal with bullies myself. I am more than prepared to take a bullet in the form of prosecution so my kids do not suffer any mental torment that will damage their adult lives Fortunately, to date, thats just giving silly girls a ticking off on the phone, but if it needs more, then so be it I have friends that were bullied, and my wife, and it has severely ruined their lives with regards to confidence and other areas Stoney33
  • Score: 14

11:49am Thu 6 Mar 14

sugar man says...

Cave Johnson wrote:
i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.
with all respect, i think that's a severely outdated way of thinking. it should be treated like any other form of abuse. people need to be aware of what's going on. and in this modern age of the internet, bullying can be completely inescapable. it's probably ten times worse than it used to be.
[quote][p][bold]Cave Johnson[/bold] wrote: i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.[/p][/quote]with all respect, i think that's a severely outdated way of thinking. it should be treated like any other form of abuse. people need to be aware of what's going on. and in this modern age of the internet, bullying can be completely inescapable. it's probably ten times worse than it used to be. sugar man
  • Score: 11

11:52am Thu 6 Mar 14

Stoney33 says...

gazzamagoo wrote:
I don't understand why the fact that Mr. May is no longer with Charlotte's mother is pertinent to the story. Anyway, I hope she recieves all the help she needs and makes a full recovery.
might be as people will be screaming 'and where was her mother when this was all happening?!?!'
[quote][p][bold]gazzamagoo[/bold] wrote: I don't understand why the fact that Mr. May is no longer with Charlotte's mother is pertinent to the story. Anyway, I hope she recieves all the help she needs and makes a full recovery.[/p][/quote]might be as people will be screaming 'and where was her mother when this was all happening?!?!' Stoney33
  • Score: -1

12:40pm Thu 6 Mar 14

Cave Johnson says...

sugar man wrote:
Cave Johnson wrote: i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.
with all respect, i think that's a severely outdated way of thinking. it should be treated like any other form of abuse. people need to be aware of what's going on. and in this modern age of the internet, bullying can be completely inescapable. it's probably ten times worse than it used to be.
On the contrary the bullying is mainly in person according to the story. Switching off the computer won't solve anything. So how is me saying it might make it worse an outdated way of thinking when you go on to say bullying is ten times worse than it used to be?
[quote][p][bold]sugar man[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Cave Johnson[/bold] wrote: i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.[/p][/quote]with all respect, i think that's a severely outdated way of thinking. it should be treated like any other form of abuse. people need to be aware of what's going on. and in this modern age of the internet, bullying can be completely inescapable. it's probably ten times worse than it used to be.[/p][/quote]On the contrary the bullying is mainly in person according to the story. Switching off the computer won't solve anything. So how is me saying it might make it worse an outdated way of thinking when you go on to say bullying is ten times worse than it used to be? Cave Johnson
  • Score: -2

1:02pm Thu 6 Mar 14

Tippy Toes says...

Stoney33 wrote:
I deal with bullies myself. I am more than prepared to take a bullet in the form of prosecution so my kids do not suffer any mental torment that will damage their adult lives

Fortunately, to date, thats just giving silly girls a ticking off on the phone, but if it needs more, then so be it

I have friends that were bullied, and my wife, and it has severely ruined their lives with regards to confidence and other areas
I am totally with you there. If my daughter ever has a problem, I can assure you that I will track them down myself. The'd wish they'd never been born!
[quote][p][bold]Stoney33[/bold] wrote: I deal with bullies myself. I am more than prepared to take a bullet in the form of prosecution so my kids do not suffer any mental torment that will damage their adult lives Fortunately, to date, thats just giving silly girls a ticking off on the phone, but if it needs more, then so be it I have friends that were bullied, and my wife, and it has severely ruined their lives with regards to confidence and other areas[/p][/quote]I am totally with you there. If my daughter ever has a problem, I can assure you that I will track them down myself. The'd wish they'd never been born! Tippy Toes
  • Score: 11

1:29pm Thu 6 Mar 14

DC Brighton says...

Mrs Newcastle wrote:
Once a parent /school relationship has broken down , it best to remove your daughter from this school and have a fresh start, I would remove her straight away and home educate until you can find a place at an another school. I would start by ringing round other schools including schools in Brighton and Hove Area to see if their are space places for her year group. I would also contact the Educational Psychology service at the West Sussex education Authority for a referral for them to see your daughter because if she is being bullied I am sure her schoolwork would be suffering. DO NOT WASTE YOU TIME WITH THIS SCHOOL IT WILL NOT WORK
I agree that it's quite possible that it is not worth bothering with this school as she already will have to deal with the mental scars.

But shouldn't it be the bullies who are expelled?

She may even find that she is looked up to by all of the other pupils who were bullied as the person who got them kicked out.
[quote][p][bold]Mrs Newcastle[/bold] wrote: Once a parent /school relationship has broken down , it best to remove your daughter from this school and have a fresh start, I would remove her straight away and home educate until you can find a place at an another school. I would start by ringing round other schools including schools in Brighton and Hove Area to see if their are space places for her year group. I would also contact the Educational Psychology service at the West Sussex education Authority for a referral for them to see your daughter because if she is being bullied I am sure her schoolwork would be suffering. DO NOT WASTE YOU TIME WITH THIS SCHOOL IT WILL NOT WORK[/p][/quote]I agree that it's quite possible that it is not worth bothering with this school as she already will have to deal with the mental scars. But shouldn't it be the bullies who are expelled? She may even find that she is looked up to by all of the other pupils who were bullied as the person who got them kicked out. DC Brighton
  • Score: 6

3:04pm Thu 6 Mar 14

sugar man says...

Cave Johnson wrote:
sugar man wrote:
Cave Johnson wrote: i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.
with all respect, i think that's a severely outdated way of thinking. it should be treated like any other form of abuse. people need to be aware of what's going on. and in this modern age of the internet, bullying can be completely inescapable. it's probably ten times worse than it used to be.
On the contrary the bullying is mainly in person according to the story. Switching off the computer won't solve anything. So how is me saying it might make it worse an outdated way of thinking when you go on to say bullying is ten times worse than it used to be?
bullying should be treated like any other form of abuse, end of story. women who are in abusive relationships are sometimes told by their partner that if they tell anyone, it will get worse. same with most forms of abuse. school bullying is no different. it's right that her father went to the papers, because, as he's stated, the school only started to take this case seriously after this tragedy happened.
[quote][p][bold]Cave Johnson[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]sugar man[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Cave Johnson[/bold] wrote: i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.[/p][/quote]with all respect, i think that's a severely outdated way of thinking. it should be treated like any other form of abuse. people need to be aware of what's going on. and in this modern age of the internet, bullying can be completely inescapable. it's probably ten times worse than it used to be.[/p][/quote]On the contrary the bullying is mainly in person according to the story. Switching off the computer won't solve anything. So how is me saying it might make it worse an outdated way of thinking when you go on to say bullying is ten times worse than it used to be?[/p][/quote]bullying should be treated like any other form of abuse, end of story. women who are in abusive relationships are sometimes told by their partner that if they tell anyone, it will get worse. same with most forms of abuse. school bullying is no different. it's right that her father went to the papers, because, as he's stated, the school only started to take this case seriously after this tragedy happened. sugar man
  • Score: 6

3:16pm Thu 6 Mar 14

Slendorable says...

I went to the same school, and I was bullied relentlessly for all four years I spent there, and the school does absolutely nothing to stop it. I even had cases where the teachers got irritated with how many times I tried to get help, and they begun to just ignore me. The 'zero tolerance' thing is entirely untrue. The bullying never went away, the more I reported it, the worse it got. I ended up just having to sit back and endure it, and I suffered for it, trust me.
I feel for this girl so much, I know completely how she feels, and she needs someone that she can vent to. I had no one. As soon as I could get away from Shoreham, I did. But now I'm just entirely useless with people because of the years of being hated. This needs to be fixed. Now.
I went to the same school, and I was bullied relentlessly for all four years I spent there, and the school does absolutely nothing to stop it. I even had cases where the teachers got irritated with how many times I tried to get help, and they begun to just ignore me. The 'zero tolerance' thing is entirely untrue. The bullying never went away, the more I reported it, the worse it got. I ended up just having to sit back and endure it, and I suffered for it, trust me. I feel for this girl so much, I know completely how she feels, and she needs someone that she can vent to. I had no one. As soon as I could get away from Shoreham, I did. But now I'm just entirely useless with people because of the years of being hated. This needs to be fixed. Now. Slendorable
  • Score: 17

3:17pm Thu 6 Mar 14

bluecat16 says...

i studied at shoreham academy (previously known as kings manor community college) about 4-5 years ago. I can recall the bullying pretty vividly. kids threw things at me, made racist remarks to my face. I remember crying during science, feeling completely alone with no one to turn to. It wasnt just me, other kids who were deemed un-cool or unpopular were also taunted and picked on. i've seen a girl running away crying because a group of boys were chasing and throwing a tennis ball at her face. the environment of the school wasnt exactly the greatest, teachers only had time for either students who are doing well or ones who were a bit of a misfit. they had no time for kid's who did not fit in. I understand that this kind of bullying goes on EVERYWHERE and adults sometimes pass them off as part of growing up - and it is. But imagine walking to school in fear, constantly feeling paranoid about your own appearance, having absolutely no self esteem because you were always made to believe that you were worthless. Then a line has been crossed, something has gone way too far. How many suicide attempts will it take before people take this seriously? parents should monitor their children's activity on computers and phones (a smartphone for a 12 year old though?) Bullying should be taken more seriously, hardships are a part of life, but mental scars shouldn't. The change should start from the teachers and the parents. looking back, i can understand that it wasnt the bully that bullied me, the hatred came from the adults failing both the bully and me. The teachers never stepped in. try asking kids how they feel, no passive, passing questions though. Really ask them how their day was. Take the time to be there for them, get to know them as a person. dont consider your job done when the clock strikes 5. Im thankful for the life lessons ive learnt at 'shoreham academy', but boy am i glad to get out of that place.
i studied at shoreham academy (previously known as kings manor community college) about 4-5 years ago. I can recall the bullying pretty vividly. kids threw things at me, made racist remarks to my face. I remember crying during science, feeling completely alone with no one to turn to. It wasnt just me, other kids who were deemed un-cool or unpopular were also taunted and picked on. i've seen a girl running away crying because a group of boys were chasing and throwing a tennis ball at her face. the environment of the school wasnt exactly the greatest, teachers only had time for either students who are doing well or ones who were a bit of a misfit. they had no time for kid's who did not fit in. I understand that this kind of bullying goes on EVERYWHERE and adults sometimes pass them off as part of growing up - and it is. But imagine walking to school in fear, constantly feeling paranoid about your own appearance, having absolutely no self esteem because you were always made to believe that you were worthless. Then a line has been crossed, something has gone way too far. How many suicide attempts will it take before people take this seriously? parents should monitor their children's activity on computers and phones (a smartphone for a 12 year old though?) Bullying should be taken more seriously, hardships are a part of life, but mental scars shouldn't. The change should start from the teachers and the parents. looking back, i can understand that it wasnt the bully that bullied me, the hatred came from the adults failing both the bully and me. The teachers never stepped in. try asking kids how they feel, no passive, passing questions though. Really ask them how their day was. Take the time to be there for them, get to know them as a person. dont consider your job done when the clock strikes 5. Im thankful for the life lessons ive learnt at 'shoreham academy', but boy am i glad to get out of that place. bluecat16
  • Score: 22

5:40pm Thu 6 Mar 14

Mrs Newcastle says...

DC Brighton wrote:
Mrs Newcastle wrote:
Once a parent /school relationship has broken down , it best to remove your daughter from this school and have a fresh start, I would remove her straight away and home educate until you can find a place at an another school. I would start by ringing round other schools including schools in Brighton and Hove Area to see if their are space places for her year group. I would also contact the Educational Psychology service at the West Sussex education Authority for a referral for them to see your daughter because if she is being bullied I am sure her schoolwork would be suffering. DO NOT WASTE YOU TIME WITH THIS SCHOOL IT WILL NOT WORK
I agree that it's quite possible that it is not worth bothering with this school as she already will have to deal with the mental scars.

But shouldn't it be the bullies who are expelled?

She may even find that she is looked up to by all of the other pupils who were bullied as the person who got them kicked out.
It is your expectation that others to should ‘play fair’ or ‘do the right thing’.??
[quote][p][bold]DC Brighton[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Mrs Newcastle[/bold] wrote: Once a parent /school relationship has broken down , it best to remove your daughter from this school and have a fresh start, I would remove her straight away and home educate until you can find a place at an another school. I would start by ringing round other schools including schools in Brighton and Hove Area to see if their are space places for her year group. I would also contact the Educational Psychology service at the West Sussex education Authority for a referral for them to see your daughter because if she is being bullied I am sure her schoolwork would be suffering. DO NOT WASTE YOU TIME WITH THIS SCHOOL IT WILL NOT WORK[/p][/quote]I agree that it's quite possible that it is not worth bothering with this school as she already will have to deal with the mental scars. But shouldn't it be the bullies who are expelled? She may even find that she is looked up to by all of the other pupils who were bullied as the person who got them kicked out.[/p][/quote]It is your expectation that others to should ‘play fair’ or ‘do the right thing’.?? Mrs Newcastle
  • Score: 1

5:49pm Thu 6 Mar 14

Dave At Home says...

Our daughter was bullied, both on and off the school premises, I was only aware of it when she was pushed over a wall one day (for wearing glasses). My wife contacted the head of PCC in Mile Oak and they were not interested until I told her to call the Police to the school and wait for them, then it was a different story, the school didn't like the Police involved but we did. I wanted to press charges but the cops asked me to show leniency towards her, which I did hesitantly, well it got sorted and the offending girl left school, pregnant at 15, had another child at 17, and the head master on close to £100K never seemed to be bothered with the way the school was being run (by him).

I hope Charlotte get all the help and support she needs from now on, the school failed her, the teachers failed her, the other pupils failed her, not her parents.
Our daughter was bullied, both on and off the school premises, I was only aware of it when she was pushed over a wall one day (for wearing glasses). My wife contacted the head of PCC in Mile Oak and they were not interested until I told her to call the Police to the school and wait for them, then it was a different story, the school didn't like the Police involved but we did. I wanted to press charges but the cops asked me to show leniency towards her, which I did hesitantly, well it got sorted and the offending girl left school, pregnant at 15, had another child at 17, and the head master on close to £100K never seemed to be bothered with the way the school was being run (by him). I hope Charlotte get all the help and support she needs from now on, the school failed her, the teachers failed her, the other pupils failed her, not her parents. Dave At Home
  • Score: 7

6:50pm Thu 6 Mar 14

bluemonday says...

one day a parent will deal with this sort of situation themselves,only then will schools,police and the authoritiesl actually start dealing with the issue head on,do it now before it's to late
one day a parent will deal with this sort of situation themselves,only then will schools,police and the authoritiesl actually start dealing with the issue head on,do it now before it's to late bluemonday
  • Score: 7

8:24pm Thu 6 Mar 14

righton says...

My son was bullied with videos posted on utube titling him as a midget it was not until he tried to take his life with a teacher preventing him that they finally accepted my meeting and requests that something was done that he was finally given another placement.
You are right there is not a point in discussing it with the school they will always side with the bully getting more support or compassion

It should be exclusion straight away no second chances it will not take long until the message gets through that bullying is not tolerated in that school.

I can tell u of an incident where a junior child was kicked so hard by another between the legs he needed three operations to rectify it. The parents were not told what their child had done in fact the mother of the attacked child was told on a Monday that her children had been excluded from the school as she had complained no action was taken against the instigator who went on to further damage other children seriously.

If your child is suffering put them first it will be difficult to find another school as the heads all stick together and will usually give a wrong story when the new school you approach calls to talk with them.

The school system stinks and needs new approaches to rectify the situation before to many more of the future generation are damaged or worse still lost
My son was bullied with videos posted on utube titling him as a midget it was not until he tried to take his life with a teacher preventing him that they finally accepted my meeting and requests that something was done that he was finally given another placement. You are right there is not a point in discussing it with the school they will always side with the bully getting more support or compassion It should be exclusion straight away no second chances it will not take long until the message gets through that bullying is not tolerated in that school. I can tell u of an incident where a junior child was kicked so hard by another between the legs he needed three operations to rectify it. The parents were not told what their child had done in fact the mother of the attacked child was told on a Monday that her children had been excluded from the school as she had complained no action was taken against the instigator who went on to further damage other children seriously. If your child is suffering put them first it will be difficult to find another school as the heads all stick together and will usually give a wrong story when the new school you approach calls to talk with them. The school system stinks and needs new approaches to rectify the situation before to many more of the future generation are damaged or worse still lost righton
  • Score: 4

8:39pm Thu 6 Mar 14

Withdean-er says...

Cave Johnson wrote:
i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.
Faced some recent problems at Patcham High. In my opinion, despite their good intentions, they, probably like other state schools, simply didn't have the resources in terms of adult personnel to fully monitor all areas at break times or for example the changing rooms before/after PE. The devious and ultimately cowardly bullies, knew exactly where and when they could get away with it.

We were lucky in that we could nip it in the bud, by simply placing our child at another (safe and happy) school, all done on our own back. That's the greatest thing we've ever done, but we genuinely feel for all the innocent kids at Patcham High or elsewhere, who are going through hell each day.

All state schools have an amazing sounding anti bullying document, preach zero tolerance at induction meetings, etc, etc. But the reality is very different.

Another problem is that it is a protracted exercise for a school to exclude these bullies - their human rights and so on. Another example of the law protecting the wrong party.


I hope this Southwick family have embarrassed Shoreham Academy into taking things seriously.
[quote][p][bold]Cave Johnson[/bold] wrote: i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.[/p][/quote]Faced some recent problems at Patcham High. In my opinion, despite their good intentions, they, probably like other state schools, simply didn't have the resources in terms of adult personnel to fully monitor all areas at break times or for example the changing rooms before/after PE. The devious and ultimately cowardly bullies, knew exactly where and when they could get away with it. We were lucky in that we could nip it in the bud, by simply placing our child at another (safe and happy) school, all done on our own back. That's the greatest thing we've ever done, but we genuinely feel for all the innocent kids at Patcham High or elsewhere, who are going through hell each day. All state schools have an amazing sounding anti bullying document, preach zero tolerance at induction meetings, etc, etc. But the reality is very different. Another problem is that it is a protracted exercise for a school to exclude these bullies - their human rights and so on. Another example of the law protecting the wrong party. I hope this Southwick family have embarrassed Shoreham Academy into taking things seriously. Withdean-er
  • Score: 5

12:03am Fri 7 Mar 14

whatevernext2013 says...

Dave At Home wrote:
Our daughter was bullied, both on and off the school premises, I was only aware of it when she was pushed over a wall one day (for wearing glasses). My wife contacted the head of PCC in Mile Oak and they were not interested until I told her to call the Police to the school and wait for them, then it was a different story, the school didn't like the Police involved but we did. I wanted to press charges but the cops asked me to show leniency towards her, which I did hesitantly, well it got sorted and the offending girl left school, pregnant at 15, had another child at 17, and the head master on close to £100K never seemed to be bothered with the way the school was being run (by him).

I hope Charlotte get all the help and support she needs from now on, the school failed her, the teachers failed her, the other pupils failed her, not her parents.
headteachers dont give a fig ,the head in longhill is just the same ,all he ever does is blame the child that been bullied ,and claims they might be just making it up ,no wonder there ofsted report was poor
[quote][p][bold]Dave At Home[/bold] wrote: Our daughter was bullied, both on and off the school premises, I was only aware of it when she was pushed over a wall one day (for wearing glasses). My wife contacted the head of PCC in Mile Oak and they were not interested until I told her to call the Police to the school and wait for them, then it was a different story, the school didn't like the Police involved but we did. I wanted to press charges but the cops asked me to show leniency towards her, which I did hesitantly, well it got sorted and the offending girl left school, pregnant at 15, had another child at 17, and the head master on close to £100K never seemed to be bothered with the way the school was being run (by him). I hope Charlotte get all the help and support she needs from now on, the school failed her, the teachers failed her, the other pupils failed her, not her parents.[/p][/quote]headteachers dont give a fig ,the head in longhill is just the same ,all he ever does is blame the child that been bullied ,and claims they might be just making it up ,no wonder there ofsted report was poor whatevernext2013
  • Score: 7

12:22am Fri 7 Mar 14

whatevernext2013 says...

Brighton mum wrote:
My daughter was bullied at Longhill school in Brighton and we've recently moved her she was physically and. Mentally abused and the school suggested it was her fault !
I feel that these schools are letting the pupils rule and have lost control and respect !
I feel for this poor little girl I hope she gets the help and support she needs.
The bully's parents need to be involved with it all as well and made to realise that as parents we should take control of our children ****
ah you had that line too from the little man down there ,they might be just making it up ,and he wonders why his ofsted report is so bad ,the school would be far better off with out him and his nodding governors ,time to go and let a decent head teacher guide the school forward
[quote][p][bold]Brighton mum[/bold] wrote: My daughter was bullied at Longhill school in Brighton and we've recently moved her she was physically and. Mentally abused and the school suggested it was her fault ! I feel that these schools are letting the pupils rule and have lost control and respect ! I feel for this poor little girl I hope she gets the help and support she needs. The bully's parents need to be involved with it all as well and made to realise that as parents we should take control of our children ****[/p][/quote]ah you had that line too from the little man down there ,they might be just making it up ,and he wonders why his ofsted report is so bad ,the school would be far better off with out him and his nodding governors ,time to go and let a decent head teacher guide the school forward whatevernext2013
  • Score: 4

12:54am Fri 7 Mar 14

stowe12 says...

Dave At Home wrote:
Our daughter was bullied, both on and off the school premises, I was only aware of it when she was pushed over a wall one day (for wearing glasses). My wife contacted the head of PCC in Mile Oak and they were not interested until I told her to call the Police to the school and wait for them, then it was a different story, the school didn't like the Police involved but we did. I wanted to press charges but the cops asked me to show leniency towards her, which I did hesitantly, well it got sorted and the offending girl left school, pregnant at 15, had another child at 17, and the head master on close to £100K never seemed to be bothered with the way the school was being run (by him).

I hope Charlotte get all the help and support she needs from now on, the school failed her, the teachers failed her, the other pupils failed her, not her parents.
I also wish Charlotte well and hope that she goes on to be successful and happy.

Sadly it sounds as though little has changed at PCC (now Portslade Aldridge). I left there in 1993 and was bullied by two particularly unpleasant girls. The school's solution was to move me to a different form group rather than punish the bullies. The lasting impression was that the school seemed incapable of adequately dealing with the problem. As others have said Charlotte, study hard, go to college or uni, get a career and stick two fingers up to the bullies.
[quote][p][bold]Dave At Home[/bold] wrote: Our daughter was bullied, both on and off the school premises, I was only aware of it when she was pushed over a wall one day (for wearing glasses). My wife contacted the head of PCC in Mile Oak and they were not interested until I told her to call the Police to the school and wait for them, then it was a different story, the school didn't like the Police involved but we did. I wanted to press charges but the cops asked me to show leniency towards her, which I did hesitantly, well it got sorted and the offending girl left school, pregnant at 15, had another child at 17, and the head master on close to £100K never seemed to be bothered with the way the school was being run (by him). I hope Charlotte get all the help and support she needs from now on, the school failed her, the teachers failed her, the other pupils failed her, not her parents.[/p][/quote]I also wish Charlotte well and hope that she goes on to be successful and happy. Sadly it sounds as though little has changed at PCC (now Portslade Aldridge). I left there in 1993 and was bullied by two particularly unpleasant girls. The school's solution was to move me to a different form group rather than punish the bullies. The lasting impression was that the school seemed incapable of adequately dealing with the problem. As others have said Charlotte, study hard, go to college or uni, get a career and stick two fingers up to the bullies. stowe12
  • Score: 7

4:18pm Fri 7 Mar 14

SeanCh says...

I wish the young lady involved in this all the best for her recovery and her future.

Like many others on here though this sort of incident isn't isolated to one school. I remember being bullied at Stringer(several years ago now), the teachers refused to do anything and it got to the point where I refused to go into school, after a few weeks of playing truant to avoid the bullies I went back into the school and talked to my then head of year about what had happened (I admitted to not going in) and the reasons behind it. Instead of getting support I was told there was no evidence me being bullied despite me showing bruises etc made when the bullies attacked me and that I was making it up and then was swiftly punished by the school for not going in.

The first thing that schools need to do to fix this problem is to actually admit that bullying happens in the school as it is my experience that they deny it straight off as it might look bad on their school reports if they do admit to bullying, only then will they be willing and able to actually do something about it and protect the vulnerable young people who are supposed to be in their care.
I wish the young lady involved in this all the best for her recovery and her future. Like many others on here though this sort of incident isn't isolated to one school. I remember being bullied at Stringer(several years ago now), the teachers refused to do anything and it got to the point where I refused to go into school, after a few weeks of playing truant to avoid the bullies I went back into the school and talked to my then head of year about what had happened (I admitted to not going in) and the reasons behind it. Instead of getting support I was told there was no evidence me being bullied despite me showing bruises etc made when the bullies attacked me and that I was making it up and then was swiftly punished by the school for not going in. The first thing that schools need to do to fix this problem is to actually admit that bullying happens in the school as it is my experience that they deny it straight off as it might look bad on their school reports if they do admit to bullying, only then will they be willing and able to actually do something about it and protect the vulnerable young people who are supposed to be in their care. SeanCh
  • Score: 2

8:41am Sat 8 Mar 14

LeonBIank666 says...

Although I served 27 years in the British Army, I was in fact bullied at School by some older boys.

It all ended one day when after about a week of having my dinner money taken I kicked the thief in the knackers. Whilst he was in the floor I kicked him again in the same area = although probably caught his hands as he was holding them for dear life.

I rarely speak in cliches, but one which is true is bullies are cowards. Kick them where it hurts. Easier said than dome I know. But what is the worse that can happen?

And there is no reason why a girl should not kick another girl in the bejazzle (I believe it hurts) as hard as possible if the bullying is so bad,
Although I served 27 years in the British Army, I was in fact bullied at School by some older boys. It all ended one day when after about a week of having my dinner money taken I kicked the thief in the knackers. Whilst he was in the floor I kicked him again in the same area = although probably caught his hands as he was holding them for dear life. I rarely speak in cliches, but one which is true is bullies are cowards. Kick them where it hurts. Easier said than dome I know. But what is the worse that can happen? And there is no reason why a girl should not kick another girl in the bejazzle (I believe it hurts) as hard as possible if the bullying is so bad, LeonBIank666
  • Score: 1

10:06am Sat 8 Mar 14

krazykath says...

I was told by another pupil in the school that this isnt the first time someone has tried to take there own life because of bullying. The pupil also stated they too are being bullied there but too scared to tell them at school. So shocking. These people need to come forward then maybe the school will try to ease the situation
I was told by another pupil in the school that this isnt the first time someone has tried to take there own life because of bullying. The pupil also stated they too are being bullied there but too scared to tell them at school. So shocking. These people need to come forward then maybe the school will try to ease the situation krazykath
  • Score: 0

1:01pm Sat 8 Mar 14

ttt121orig says...

Something NEEDS to be done about that **** school!!!"!

Ive heard NUMEROUS accounts of vbullying there and met people in their late twenties still affected by it.

The school seems to attract bullies, is it something to dowith Southwick and Shoreham?

Two Royston Vasey towns on the outskirts that raises nefarious children?
Something NEEDS to be done about that **** school!!!"! Ive heard NUMEROUS accounts of vbullying there and met people in their late twenties still affected by it. The school seems to attract bullies, is it something to dowith Southwick and Shoreham? Two Royston Vasey towns on the outskirts that raises nefarious children? ttt121orig
  • Score: 0

10:35am Tue 11 Mar 14

woodie49 says...

Cave Johnson wrote:
i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.
People like you make me sick with your brush it under the carpet mentality. I know what I would do if it were a child of mine.
[quote][p][bold]Cave Johnson[/bold] wrote: i don't think going to the papers is going to help this girl, and potentially make it worse.[/p][/quote]People like you make me sick with your brush it under the carpet mentality. I know what I would do if it were a child of mine. woodie49
  • Score: 0

9:27pm Wed 12 Mar 14

xlaughingx says...

The schools only let students down when they know about an issue & fail to do anything.It's important therefore that the person who feels bullied speaks to people in the school- or have someone do it on their behalf (friends or family) so there can be some intervention. I don't know any school that would want to support or keep bullies-unfortunatel
y they may be forced (by county etc) into keeping the nasty little people.Meanwhile the bullying via social media must be reported to the police so that they can also follow it up.
The schools only let students down when they know about an issue & fail to do anything.It's important therefore that the person who feels bullied speaks to people in the school- or have someone do it on their behalf (friends or family) so there can be some intervention. I don't know any school that would want to support or keep bullies-unfortunatel y they may be forced (by county etc) into keeping the nasty little people.Meanwhile the bullying via social media must be reported to the police so that they can also follow it up. xlaughingx
  • Score: 0

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