I have been married to my husband for 14 years.

To my astonishment, he has just suggested he would like to see me making love with other men. I am stunned by this. Do you think he's ill, or what?

No, I don't. Unfortunately, it's a fact quite a few guys are turned on by the thought of watching their wives having sex with other people. Men often get these ideas when they've been married quite a long time or when the marriage is actually drifting into trouble. My advice is: do not agree. And ask your man to go to Relate (01273 697997) with you for counselling.